“I have 10 minutes to kill.” It’s a word I’ve said almost every day in my life as an investigative journalist. I work long hours and there are days when I don’t have time to eat, let alone make phone calls. But there is also time wasted waiting for interviews or preparing live reports. That’s a longer downtime than we thought at the time. When I became a stay-at-home mom, I realized how much time I had. My job doesn’t require taking a break every few hours, but I’ve found a way to take 10 minutes here and 15 minutes there when I need it so I don’t burn out. As a stay-at-home mom, this feeling is now a thing of the past.
I think we need to step up and get involved as much as possible. Not only because it’s my main goal right now, but because I know the long-term implications of being an active parent are significant. But there are many days without rest.
Recently, my three-year-old daughter Adli had a fever for several days. He was restless, irritable and had trouble sleeping all day and night. He always wanted my full attention. At the end of the week, everything was fine, but I was tired.
All Adley wants to do is play at the park or swim in the pool. But I need time to repay. Luckily my wife knew this and took Adli to the science museum on Sunday afternoon. This gave me a few hours to rest, exercise, and recharge my brain. When they came back, I was waiting for dinner and felt like a new man.
We often think of burnout as something that happens during stress or at work, but it has also become an accepted condition among parents.
The American Psychological Association reports on the effects of parental burnout in a 2021 article. 1 This analysis, written by Belgian researcher Isabelle Roskam and colleagues, identified the feelings of four mothers and fathers when facing a crisis. The steps are explained.
The first stage is very weak and the second stage is when parents are away from their children. The third is loss of success as a parent, and the fourth is immense frustration with parenting.1
According to the article, “The symptoms of parental burnout, like burnout, are reciprocal. Stage 1 burnout continues through distance and loss of achievement. As a result, Roskam That said, parents Parents in crisis often see the difference between the parents they are, the parents they want to be, and the parents they are. He added that this difference can create anxiety, shame and guilt in exhausted parents.”
There are Solutions to Parental Burnout
Finding solutions is the most important step in solving a problem. But we must also recognize the problem of perception. Many people view being a stay-at-home parent as something other than work.
I’ve had conversations with friends who thought it was a long break. This feeling is not only abandoned, it is dangerous and can negatively impact the efforts required to raise a child. If caregivers do not feel supported, they will become more vulnerable to parenting, creating an environment conducive to violence.
I’ll be the first to admit that I too am guilty of this perception. I think of long, comfortable nights and leisure cruises. Days like this happen sometimes, but they are rare. Being a stay-at-home parent is the hardest thing I’ve ever done. But I can’t think of anything else. My feelings are 100% wrong and I hate what I have to go through in this life to feel that feeling. I hope others don’t make the same mistake and appreciate what stay at home parents have done in their lives. “Thank you” is always appreciated, but if you want to help, watch my daughter for a few minutes so I can rest.